Emotional Bank

Every person you meet either deposits or withdraws from you emotionally.

After reading the book “How Full is Your Bucket”, I have become more cognizant of how my interactions with  others either add or multiply them or subtract and divide with even the slightest interactions. Likewise, I realize how their energy impacts me. Become aware of your words and the emotional charges they have. Are you building people up or tearing them down? People tend to remember more when there are emotions attached  to an encounter or experience. 




Society tends to expect “normalized “  behavior as in “that’s what you’re supposed to do” but place condemnation and emphasis on the “abnormal” and that is the only part that is vocalized. What that means is, doing 99 things correctly, society focuses on the 1 thing that was wrong. You know the mother/father that stays in their kids life and it’s looked at as “that’s what they are supposed to do”, is rarely celebrated. Guess who gets the most recognition, even if it is negative. Yup, that’s right, the absent parent. Although that is what they are “supposed to do” some CREDIT is deserved for actually making it happen. Make sure you’re aware when you’re speaking that you are not only pointing out areas of improvement or mistakes. Acknowledge and appreciate the “expected”. We can’t allow expectations to overshadow appreciation. That depletes the EMOTIONAL BANK.




Be it friendships, relationships, work, etc. make sure your bucket is full. Don’t fear or run from correction but make sure you are aware of the bank “ROBBERS”- those that constantly WITHDRAW from your EMOTIONAL BANK. Along with that, it is imperative that you’re appreciative of those who make DEPOSITS to keep you from BANKRUPTCY. When your EMOTIONAL BANK has been OVERDRAFTed, it can cultivate confusion and you may become more susceptible to vulnerability. 

Be mindful of the emotional TRANSACTIONS that the people around you are influencing as well as evaluating your impact in other people’s lives. Acknowledge people. Tell them how you feel. “Seek first to understand, then be understood”. Make your own emotional DEPOSITS in your BANK. 



It’s also important to be mindful of your own emotional CHARGES. What are you telling yourself about you? Are they TAXING? Accruing INTEREST?

Avoid the emotional bank OVERDRAFT.

Those FEES are detrimental to you mentally. INVEST in you!


Sensai

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