The Battle in My Mind

  As I reflect on my journey as a mental performance and athlete identity consultant, it hit me… what’s my spiritual identity? How can I translate what I teach coaches and athletes into the spiritual world? Because if I’m being honest, that’s where my strength lies. That’s where my vision was born. Everything I teach about discipline, identity, resilience, and execution didn’t just come from sport. It came from what’s been built in me spiritually. I’d rather try and fail than fail to try. That’s not just a motivational quote. It’s a spiritual posture. It’s a decision to move when fear is loud, when clarity isn’t perfect, and when outcomes aren’t guaranteed. In coaching, we call that execution under pressure. In faith, we call that obedience. Too many people are waiting for certainty before they move. But if you’ve ever coached athletes, you already know that’s not how growth works. Confidence isn’t built before action. It’s built because of it. So here’s the real question. Do you d...

I’m a therapist. I’m also the strong friend. And I’m an introvert. Which means I spend most of my life holding space for others. Listening carefully, asking thoughtful questions, noticing what’s left unsaid, and helping people untangle emotions they’ve been carrying quietly for years. What most people don’t realize is that when you live in that role long enough, something subtle happens. You forget how to answer the question, “How are you?” Not because you don’t have feelings, but because you’re so used to no one asking. As the strong friend, you become the safe place. As the therapist, you become the container. As the introvert, you become accustomed to processing internally instead of externally. So when someone genuinely pauses and asks how I am, really asks, I sometimes freeze. My mind scans for a socially acceptable, low-maintenance response. I downplay. I summarize. I deflect with humor. I say, “I’m fine” or “I’m good, just busy,” even when there’s an entire novel living inside m...

As I watched Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts’ sermon from this weekend, the word PROCESS resonated in my spirit. I started a deep dive in all the various facets the word PROCESS is used and how important and relevant each version is in particular for me! Here’s what came to mind…. The Beauty of the Process : God, My Process or God, when I sit and bask in Your grace and mercy, my heart and even my nervous system are overwhelmed in the best way. God, You’ve been behind the scenes the entire time, whispering, “Trust Me, it will be greater later.” Honestly, I can’t believe my life right now. I’m so grateful. If someone had told me five years ago what I would have to go through to get here, I don’t think I would have been able to process it. But now I see it clearly. The process was necessary. Understanding the Process The word  process  has such a deep meaning. In life, in psychology, and in faith, a process isn’t just a series of events. It’s a transformation. In the general sens...

This time it’s personal… This year, as I turn 37, I feel something shifting deep within me. It’s more than another birthday; it’s a spiritual milestone. The number 37 carries profound meaning. In biblical symbolism, it represents completion and perfection intertwined with purpose. It quietly whispers,  “ It’s time to reap .”  Not just the physical blessings, but the harvest that comes after seasons of endurance, lessons, tears, and faith. For years, I’ve been sowing seeds, some in pain, some in prayer, and some in patience. I’ve learned that growth isn’t always loud or visible. Sometimes, it’s what happens in silence, in the spaces where you choose peace instead of proving a point, or boundaries instead of burnout. Turning 37 feels like standing at the edge of a new chapter where God is saying,  “Now, watch what I can do with all you’ve been through.” This year will be  personal . It’s not about proving anything to anyone; it’s about walking in everything God has pro...

Choosing Perspective in Every Season Life has a way of pulling our focus in different directions. Some days it’s easy to see the blessings all around us; other days, negativity feels louder and heavier than anything else. This is where  gratitude  comes in, not as denial of reality, but as a deliberate choice of perspective. Gratitude is not pretending life is perfect. It’s not disassociating from hard times or ignoring struggles. Instead, it’s the practice of choosing to see the good  alongside  the challenges. It’s looking for the light even when shadows are present. Remembering What God Has Done One of the most powerful ways to stay rooted in gratitude is to  look back  and remember what God has already done in your life. Think about the prayers that were once on your heart that have now been answered. Think about the moments you didn’t think you’d make it through, yet here you are. Gratitude grows when we pause and reflect on God’s faithfulness in the p...

In healthy relationships, love is meant to feel abundant, mutual, and nourishing. But for many, the reality looks different, one partner giving their all while the other offers just enough to keep things going, but never enough to truly satisfy. This pattern is often called  breadcrumbing , and it leaves the person on the receiving end feeling emotionally deprived, unseen, and unfulfilled. What is Breadcrumbing? Breadcrumbing happens when one partner gives small, inconsistent signs of attention, affection, or commitment, but never follows through with genuine depth. It’s like being handed crumbs when what you truly need is a full meal. It might look like: Occasional compliments but no consistent appreciation. Moments of intimacy followed by long stretches of distance. Just enough communication to prevent disconnection, but never enough to feel secure. Promises of “someday” without real action to build a future. On the surface, these small gestures may feel like hope, but over time ...