The Battle in My Mind

In healthy relationships, love is meant to feel abundant, mutual, and nourishing. But for many, the reality looks different, one partner giving their all while the other offers just enough to keep things going, but never enough to truly satisfy. This pattern is often called  breadcrumbing , and it leaves the person on the receiving end feeling emotionally deprived, unseen, and unfulfilled. What is Breadcrumbing? Breadcrumbing happens when one partner gives small, inconsistent signs of attention, affection, or commitment, but never follows through with genuine depth. It’s like being handed crumbs when what you truly need is a full meal. It might look like: Occasional compliments but no consistent appreciation. Moments of intimacy followed by long stretches of distance. Just enough communication to prevent disconnection, but never enough to feel secure. Promises of “someday” without real action to build a future. On the surface, these small gestures may feel like hope, but over time ...

Adults spend years, sometimes decades, trying to figure out confidence. We buy books, attend workshops, follow influencers, and stand in front of mirrors repeating affirmations. But sometimes, the truest, simplest wisdom comes from the heart of a child. Meet my niece,  Colin . She’s 8 years old. She’s unapologetically herself. She loves chips. She’s flexible, friendly, and firmly believes she’s  “the best Colin in the world.” And honestly? She might be on to something. What Is Confidence? “When you know you’re going to kill it.” – Colin, age 8 Confidence isn’t arrogance. It’s not perfection. It’s a deep, quiet knowing that  you can show up and be great   not because you have every answer, but because you  know who you are  and  believe in what you bring . Colin doesn’t need external validation to believe in herself. She doesn’t wait for applause before deciding she’s got this. She just  knows . And that’s confidence. How Do You Get Confidence? “Yo...

Be the Love of Your Own Life We often grow up believing the greatest love story we’ll ever experience is with another person, someone who sees us, chooses us, saves us. But the most transformative, healing, and empowering love story you’ll ever live… is the one you write with  yourself . You Are Not Waiting to Be Loved — You Are Love Being the love of your own life means  choosing yourself  every day  in the silence, in the mess, in the rebuilding. It means: Encouraging yourself when no one else claps. Complimenting yourself when the mirror is quiet. Showing up for yourself without needing someone else to tell you you’re worth it. Don’t Wait — That’s Giving Away Your Power Waiting for someone to love you “enough” is handing over the keys to your self-worth. It creates a dangerous cycle: If they approve, I’m valuable. If they withdraw, I’m lacking. If they change, I crumble. When you  rely on others to meet all your needs , you unintentionally give them the power...