The Battle in My Mind

In healthy relationships, love is meant to feel abundant, mutual, and nourishing. But for many, the reality looks different, one partner giving their all while the other offers just enough to keep things going, but never enough to truly satisfy. This pattern is often called  breadcrumbing , and it leaves the person on the receiving end feeling emotionally deprived, unseen, and unfulfilled. What is Breadcrumbing? Breadcrumbing happens when one partner gives small, inconsistent signs of attention, affection, or commitment, but never follows through with genuine depth. It’s like being handed crumbs when what you truly need is a full meal. It might look like: Occasional compliments but no consistent appreciation. Moments of intimacy followed by long stretches of distance. Just enough communication to prevent disconnection, but never enough to feel secure. Promises of “someday” without real action to build a future. On the surface, these small gestures may feel like hope, but over time ...

When counseling or advising others I usually say something that Ends up preaching to myself. Recently I stated "you can't give everyone husband perks" meaning that there are certain factors that only your spouse deserves. Inadvertently I needed to hear it for myself. Too often when I'm interested in someone I solely focus on that one person with this ignorance of confirmation that we are exclusively getting to know each other. I'm not speaking sexually either... Just communication on a regular to figure out if the individual is compatible and adds more that they take away. I said all that to say this, loyalty is only expected when in a relationship or marriage so why is it that when I'm communicating with Someone on the regular, that I feel it should be honored and reciprocated? Mind boggling, I know.. Getting so caught up in the words that I hear that I neglect to pay attention to the words unsaid, the action. I pride myself on reciprocation so I always ...

Mighty man of valor,   I anxiously, yet patiently anticipate your arrival in my life. My envision for us supersedes my conscious ability to articulate with accurate precision. As I await and prepare for our connection, there are some things I would like you to know...  Timing is everything.... Our first level of commitment is to God. We owe him a return on his investment . Then our commitment to each other. Our connectivity will be a phenomenal asset to our commitment.  Future husband, I want you to thoroughly comprehend the immense difficulty of watching everyone else appear to be happily in love, meanwhile I constantly get approached by .... Well let's just say, "developing" men. (Yeah, developing men... That was a nice way to put it.) perhaps "poor timing " or "premature males ". Who knows... My conscious decision at age 14 to make better and intentional choices of being a lady with attempts to keep my sanctuary essential were so th...

Usually when you hear "watch your mouth" it's used in a context that refers to that of vulgar language. It is important to remember you can never take words back even with extreme efforts to recant statements. Never let anyone get you so angry that you speak words that you may not mean when you calm down ( we can deal with anger in another blog). I agree with the aforementioned concept, however  in this particular blog, I want to take approach it from a different perspective. In this world, one of the most valuable things one possesses is their WORDS . It sounds so cliche hearing " word is bond " but if your word is unreliable what purpose do you serve in my life to even listen to you. Considering every word spoken seems to be a babble of fictitious foolishness creating contractions in my brain.  Let's keep it simple. If you say you are going to do something, do it. If you are incapable or incompetent of carrying it out, just don't make false promi...