Dormant
I admire those of you who live without constantly turning inward, who move through life without the weight of reflection. For me, self-examination has always been part of my process. It isn’t weakness, it’s awareness. It helps me see where I need to grow, where I need to take accountability, and where I need to stand stronger. What I’m learning, though, is how to take responsibility without carrying unnecessary guilt or shame. Growth does not require self-punishment. In relationships, this becomes especially clear. When I stop caring as much, I feel safer. My emotions regulate. I don’t overreact, and sometimes I don’t respond at all. That distance protects me, but it also has a downside. The less I care, the more numb I become. I stop investing, stop leaning in. What feels like calm for me can easily become disconnection with others. And here’s the truth: if it isn’t safe for me to be fully myself in a relationship, then you won’t get all of me. Parts of me will remain dormant. That’s ...