The Battle in My Mind

In healthy relationships, love is meant to feel abundant, mutual, and nourishing. But for many, the reality looks different, one partner giving their all while the other offers just enough to keep things going, but never enough to truly satisfy. This pattern is often called  breadcrumbing , and it leaves the person on the receiving end feeling emotionally deprived, unseen, and unfulfilled. What is Breadcrumbing? Breadcrumbing happens when one partner gives small, inconsistent signs of attention, affection, or commitment, but never follows through with genuine depth. It’s like being handed crumbs when what you truly need is a full meal. It might look like: Occasional compliments but no consistent appreciation. Moments of intimacy followed by long stretches of distance. Just enough communication to prevent disconnection, but never enough to feel secure. Promises of “someday” without real action to build a future. On the surface, these small gestures may feel like hope, but over time ...

  Taking time to reflect has been incredibly valuable. Being in a healthy relationship has filled me with hope and excitement for what’s ahead. It’s prompted me to pause and gather my thoughts here’s what’s been on my heart… Yesterday, I met the truth  and she was soft, but unrelenting. She said, “No… you’re not quite ready for marriage again.” And I didn’t flinch. Because she wasn’t judging  she was freeing me. Freeing me to admit what I need, without apology. To stand on things I’ve spoken out loud and things I have whispered in private. I need to feel safe enough… to feel. To break without being broken. To cry and not be labeled “too much.” To speak and not be muted by ego or pride. I need space  space to be human, to be messy, to heal the parts of me no one ever saw bleeding. I need to heal the wounds I’ve carried, the ones I tucked behind strength and silence, the ones I dressed in “I’m fine” so no one would worry. I need to feel loved  not tolerated, not m...

Inspired by Dr. Charles Stanley Making decisions in our life: direction without doubt  Psalm 25:12 CLEAR THE PATHWAY- clear your heart of any known sin or disobedience whether its an attitude or action: get rid of it  Clean heart =clear mind Sin is to the mind what fog does to the brain : fog covers highway and you can't see 20 feet in front of you. Look at your life and ask "what is it in my life that doesn't fit who I am that will hinder me from God giving me clear direction. " 1. Deal with sin 2. Bring your desires to a point of neutrality . Acknowledge what you want but if that's not what God wants You'll do what he says .  Submit your will and let him bring you to a point of being neutrality . You may not like it but Be willing to do his will. "Above everything else, Lord, I want what you want"  EXERCISE PATIENCE- when you have a certain urge to make a decision , back off. ask "does this look , sound like God? Does this ...